When it comes to Hollywood romances and marriages, iPhone battery has a longer lifespan. But there was something about Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s marriage that gave us hope. Maybe it was his heartfelt and vulnerable declaration of love and appreciation to her on the Oscar stage. “I want to thank my wife, who I don’t normally associate with Iran. I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good. It is work, but it’s the best kind of work and there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
After this speech, if we already weren’t, we became even more emotionally invested in Ben and Jen’s marriage. Their three adorable kids were just icing on our happily ever after cake. They welcomed us into their lives with their ice bucket challenge and other fun family videos and pictures. They were the denim wearing, baseball loving married couple. They were like us. They were more like us than any other couple in Hollywood.
Jen and Ben have had ten years of marriage. In Hollywood, ten years of marriage equal at least 25 years. But they were our hope for Hollywood marriage success. We never expected them to be perfect or their marriage to be flawless. We just expected them to stay together.
After weeks of divorce rumors, we were still unwilling to believe it. Not our Jen and Ben. So when they released a joint statement on their pending divorce, it hit us hard. It hit us hard because we have spent the last decade pulling for them, pulling for love, pulling for us.
So what made them decide to quit working on their marriage? We don’t know, and regardless of heavy media speculations and rumors, we will never know (unless they both write a tell-all book). No one knows what really goes on between two people but those individuals and God. Marriage is work. Hollywood marriage is work on top of work. We’re just sad they couldn’t work it out.